Quote:

            “I know I was physically giving off cues that I wasn’t interested. I don’t think that was noticed at all, or if it was, it was ignored.”

Comment:

            I took this quote from about half way through the Babe article entitled “I Went on a Date with Aziz Ansari. It Turned into the Worst Night of My Life.” This particular quote is from Grace the victim in this report. She is describing her night and the events that took place after she went out to dinner with Ansari. Grace made it clear that she was not interested in the same things that Ansari was interested in and expressed that she attempted to make that clear through both verbal and nonverbal cues. In the end felt as though this was unsuccessful.

            My reasoning for choosing this particular quote is how it shows the reader her thoughts and her perspective. Regardless of what the exact event of the night was this is how she perceived the situation. In her eyes she was being forced into something she did not want to do even though she was expressing her dislike for the situation. For me the key word here is perceive. Perception is everything and is a large portion of what the #metoo movement is about. Women just like Grace have found themselves feeling as though they had been taken advantage of while the man in the situation either denies or is unaware of her feeling.

             This reminded me of the discussion we had last class about “Disgrace.” We talked about how David struggled to recognize sexual assault as anything other than a violent encounter. It would seem that Ansari is similar to David in that way. Since there was no violence Ansari struggled to see that there was anything wrong with the situation. This just goes to show how differently people can interoperate things. I think it is precisely this that needs to be and is perhaps changing in our culture. Women are coming forward with anecdotes very similar to those of Grace and Melanie, the character from Disgrace. I look forward to discussing this today during class.

Question:

             If someone does not view their actions as wrong, does that mean they are any less guilty of a crime?